Good odd hour world!!!
So I apologize for posting so late, but I had a real occupying day. A question I have is….why do we take shots at each other in a marriage or relationship? I absolutely think it is the most detrimental thing for a relationship but people do it. I have always been one never to back down from a fight and I recognize now that this is my biggest flaw. I have always been this tough girl! I do not take crap off of people and I have quick comebacks and this was a strength and weakness. I still remember when I was a little girl arguing with my mother and her looking at me with this expression less face and saying you really know how to cut people with your mouth and you should be careful. Years of experience and continuously going at it, I saw many hurt faces cross my path. I always thought YES I won this battle and they should not have verbally attacked me in the first place, no remorse.
I am glad that as I got older less people picked fights with me. I no longer have a real issue with others but unfortunately my husband does not fall into the others category. So when I feel under attack the bullets fly so fast from my mouth piercing every inch of his heart. I know he tries to keep up and take shots back but I always win at the end or do I? I would have to say no! Although his head may drop, my heart is aching every minute I think he feels I do not love him or he is not what I want or I may leave him eventually. I never intended on him to feel that way and people say you just stop. They also say be quiet do not say anything, just shut your mouth CharDe and I think damn if it were that easy we would not be having this discussion. I try to sit quiet and I do keep my mouth shut but when I am verbally being attacked for a period of time I just black out and bring my best to the fight or I should say my worse. I think the first thing is acknowledging you have a problem, after owning it, search for a resolution, and go for the goal. (Praying)
I hate being verbally abusive to my spouse even if I feel justified.
I hate the aftermath feeling and the hurt.
I hate reacting to attacks.
I hate not being able to just be the quiet victim.
Well farewell for now A.K.A “A Work In Progress”
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